KEYZINE: An e-zine for LEADERS:
ABOUT THE PEOPLE PART OF
BUSINESS
Volume
84, March 2008
Publisher: © Key Associates, 2008
ISSN #
1545-8873
http://www.mkkey.com/
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This Issue: "Emotion in the Workplace"
Contents:
"No man has the right to dictate what other men
should perceive, create, or produce, but all should
be encouraged to reveal themselves, their perceptions
and emotions, and to build confidence in the creative
spirit."
-
Ansel Adams
"We know too much and feel too little. At
least,
we feel too little of those creative emotions from which
the good life springs.”
- Bertrand Russell
CULTIVATING EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.
ASSUMING THE ROLE OF COACH, NOT
PSYCHOTHERAPIST, WITH EMPLOYEES.
ROUTING NEGATIVE ENERGY IN A POSITIVE
DIRECTION.
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MAINTAINING YOURSELF AS A
LEADER
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The experience of work is saturated with emotion.
Yet, as leaders, we tend to duck it, quell it, or expel
it, rather than deal with it. Let logic and rational
thinking prevail!
Appropriate emotion can create positive morale, team
spirit, and productive results. We all must learn to
express feelings without fear of reprisal. Neglect
of emotion depersonalizes--one becomes their function
(a role person, not a whole person).
Leadership thus has the duty to learn emotion
management skills.
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FREQUENTLY ASKED
QUESTIONS
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What emotion management skills are you referring to?
Daniel Goleman (2006) has introduced a term that
captures the skill set--called emotional intelligence (EI).
EI is defined as the capacity to effectively perceive,
express, understand,
and handle your emotions
and the emotions of others in a positive and
productive
manner. It is about connecting with others,
and with yourself on an emotional
level. People who
possess a high degree of EI are more successful
in relationships and are
viewed as more effective leaders.
There is a link in EDUCATIONAL OPPORTUNITIES
below, that will allow you to test your EI.
Why are emotions frowned upon at work?
Are there particular emotions that are on or off limits?
They tend to be grouped as a whole. Research by Kramer
& Hess
showed that many employees do not want their co-workers
to express any type
of strong emotion -- positive or negative.
Their studies found that the only "appropriate"
way to
manage negative emotions at work was for employees to hide
or
"mask" their emotions. Positive emotions also needed to be
expressed
in moderation. The reason? In order to maintain
what they call "professionalism."
I do believe we should set some reasonable boundaries.
Emotional behavior is unhealthy when it damages relationships,
is abusive, out-of-control, or toxic. Unsuitable remarks,
uncomfortable topics, gossip, and back-stabbing are some other
examples of off-limited behavior.
How does the experience of emotion differ in jobs?
Katherine I. Miller named four types of emotion on the job:
* emotional labor (e.g., flight attendants, restaurant waiters)
* emotional work (e.g., nurses, counselors)
* emotion with work (e.g., what makes coming to work worth it,
or the reverse--callous treatment at work)
* emotion at work when our lives intrude (e.g., 9/11, death of a loved one)
Miller has concentrated much of her recent work on the
emotion of compassion. Compassionate communication is
simply "saying the right thing in the right way." For her,
compassion involves three components: noticing, connecting
and responding to a person. Compassion is the attention we
give emotion.
Do you follow an outline in dealing with emotion?
Connect in appropriate ways: surface it, honor it, and
explore it, rather than let it plop.
* Identify the (emotional) message.
* Confirm your understanding of it.
* Validate their right to feel.
* Ask if they have a request.
* Respond to the request in an appropriate way.
EXERCISES AND ACTION ITEMS:
* Take the emotional intelligence quiz cited below.
*
Consult your EAPs
for help with specifics, like anger
management or grief work.
* Discuss emotional expression with your group and
healthy ways to channel the energy.
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EDUCATIONAL
OPPORTUNITIES
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How to train
managers and coaches in emotion management
http://www.1to1coachingschool.com/Managing_Emotion_in_the_workplace.htm
How emotionally intelligent are you? Take this quiz:
http://www.lifescript.com/quiz/quiz.asp?bid=52684&trans=1&du=1
&gclid=CKf83JiTnJICFQhusgodU3i2-w&ef_id=1350:3:c_ada7de
82050c20de61cb9b96d0c86e0e_710910605:MxtZIEGvMaAAAC
1RQfAAAAAd:20080320165249
Know how to handle your own experience of emotion and conflict
http://www.medhunters.com/articles/emotionsInTheWorkplace.html
Key Associates offers training in leadership, coaching, and
conflict
management, including "How to Deal with Difficult People" and
"Threats of Violence." Call for customized training packages.
http://www.mkkey.com/courses.htm
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OTHER
USEFUL
WEBSITES
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The social sharing of emotion and humor
http://books.google.com/books?id=JowWGqg
O3W0C&pg=PA143&lpg=PA143&dq=emotion
+is+the+workplace&source=web&ots=Qu5Xqf
gOWr&sig=8bazXIcJqp7RaCw5_DLrKvROED
o&hl=en#PPA149,M1
Expressing emotion improves productivity and morale
http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1272/is_n2604_v124/ai_17582563
Emotions as a force for good or toxicity
http://goliath.ecnext.com/coms2/gi_0198-14933/Handle-with-care-emotion-in.html
Former Keyzines on related topics:
Volume 6, September
2001 - Stress
Reactions to Terrorism and Major Disasters
Volume 16, July
2002 - Dealing with Difficult People
Volume 22, January
2003 - Personal Change
Volume 57, December
2005 - Stress Management
Volume 72, March
2007 - Mindfulness
Volume 77,
August 2007 - Constructive Confrontation
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ARTICLES/PUBLICATIONS
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Ashworth,
Blake E. & Ronald Humphrey.
Emotion in the Workplace: A Reappraisal.
Bernstein, Albert J. Emotional
Vampires:
Dealing With People Who Drain You Dry.
McGraw-Hill, 2002.
Bolton, Sharon C. Emotion
Management in the Workplace
(Management, Work and Organizations). Palgrave Macmillan,
2005.
Goleman, Daniel. Emotional
Intelligence: Why It
Can Matter More Than IQ (10th Anniversary Edition).
Bantam, 2006.
Fineman, Stephen. Understanding
Emotion at Work.
Sage Publications Ltd., 2003.
Harrell, Keith. Attitude
is Everything, Revised Edition:
10 Life-Changing Steps to Turning Attitude into Action.
Collins, 2005.
Leeds, Dorothy. The 7 Powers of Questions, 2000.
Levine, Stewart. The
Book of Agreement:
10 Essential Elements for Getting the Results
You Want, 2002.
Lord, Robert G., Richard J. Klimoski & Ruth Kanfer.
Emotions in the
Workplace: Understanding the
Structure and Role of Emotions in Organizational
Behavior. Jossey-Bass, 2002.
Maddock, Richard C. & Richard L. Fulton. Motivation,
Emotions, and Leadership: The Silent Side of Management.
Greenwood Publishing Group, 1998.
Miller, Katherine. The
Experience of Emotion in the
Workplace. Management Communication Quarterly,
Vol. 15, No. 4, 571-600 (2002).
Patterson, Kerry et.al.
Crucial Conversations:
Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High, 2002.
Payne, Roy L. & Gary L.
Cooper. Emotions
at Work:
Theory, Research and Applications for Management.
Wiley Interscience, 2007.
Browse books on Stress and Emotion in the Workplace.