KEYZINE: An e-zine for LEADERS:
   ABOUT THE PEOPLE PART OF BUSINESS
             Volume 84, March 2008
  Publisher: © Key Associates, 2008
              ISSN # 1545-8873
           http://www.mkkey.com/

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This Issue: "Emotion in the Workplace"

Contents:

"People are entitled to joy in work.”
                                       - W. Edwards Deming

"The true formula for success & happiness is the development 
of an intelligent mind surrendered to an intelligent heart.

                             
- Kenneth A. Miller, MD

"No man has the right to dictate what other men 
should perceive, create, or produce, but all should 
be encouraged to reveal themselves, their perceptions 
and emotions, and to build confidence in the creative 
spirit."

                              - Ansel Adams

"We know too much and feel too little.  At least, 
we feel too little of those creative emotions from which
the good life springs.

                             
- Bertrand Russell

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WHAT'S HOT IN LEADERSHIP
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CREATING PRODUCTIVE EMOTIONAL 
WORKSPACES.

CULTIVATING EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.

ASSUMING THE ROLE OF COACH, NOT 
PSYCHOTHERAPIST, WITH EMPLOYEES. 

ROUTING NEGATIVE ENERGY IN A POSITIVE 
DIRECTION.

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MAINTAINING YOURSELF AS A LEADER
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The experience of work is saturated with emotion.
Yet, as leaders,  we tend to duck it, quell it, or expel 
it, rather than deal with it.  Let logic and rational 
thinking prevail!

Appropriate emotion can create positive morale, team
spirit, and productive results.  We all must learn to 
express feelings without fear of reprisal.  Neglect 
of emotion depersonalizes--one becomes their function 
(a role person, not a whole person).

Leadership thus has the duty to learn emotion 
management skills.  

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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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What emotion management skills are you referring to?

Daniel Goleman (2006) has introduced a term that 
captures the skill set--called emotional intelligence (EI).  
 
EI is defined as the capacity to effectively perceive, 
express, understand, and handle your emotions 
and the emotions of others in a positive and 
productive manner. It is about connecting with others, 
and with yourself on an emotional level. People who 
possess a high degree of EI are more successful 
in relationships and are viewed as more effective leaders.

There is a link in EDUCATIONAL OPPORTUNITIES 
below, that will allow you to test your EI.

 

Why are emotions frowned upon at work?

The American, task-oriented, can-do mentality 
discounts emotions.   We have separated logic 
and emotion, when in fact,  most decisions are 
made on emotion and then presented in a rational 
mode.  

Ashworth & Ronald (1995) hold that this 
pejorative view of emotion has led to four 
institutionalized mechanisms for regulating 
the experience and expression of emotion
in the workplace: 1) neutralizing, 2) buffering,
3) prescribing, and 4) normalizing emotion.  
In contrast, they argue that emotionality and 
rationality are interpenetrated; emotions are 
an integral part of organizational life, and 
emotions are often functional for the organization.

 

Are there particular emotions that are on or off limits?

They tend to be grouped as a whole. Research by  Kramer & Hess  
showed that  many employees do not want their co-workers 
to express any type of strong emotion -- positive or negative.
Their studies found that the only "appropriate" way to 
manage negative emotions at work was for employees to hide 
or "mask" their emotions. Positive emotions also needed to be 
expressed in moderation.  The reason?  In order to maintain 
what they call "professionalism."

I do believe we should set some reasonable boundaries.  
Emotional behavior is unhealthy when it damages relationships, 
is abusive, out-of-control, or toxic.  Unsuitable remarks, 
uncomfortable topics, gossip, and back-stabbing are some other 
examples of off-limited behavior.

 

How does the experience of emotion differ in jobs?    

Katherine I. Miller named four types of emotion on the job:

* emotional labor (e.g., flight attendants, restaurant waiters)
* emotional work (e.g., nurses, counselors)
* emotion with work (e.g., what makes coming to work worth it, 
or the reverse--callous treatment at work)
* emotion at work when our lives intrude (e.g., 9/11, death of a loved one)

Miller has concentrated much of her recent work on the 
emotion of compassion.  Compassionate communication is 
simply "saying the right thing in the right way."  For her,
compassion involves three components: noticing, connecting 
and responding to a person.  Compassion is the attention we 
give emotion.

 

Do you follow an outline in dealing with emotion?

Connect in appropriate ways: surface it, honor it, and 
explore it, rather than let it plop.  

* Identify the (emotional) message.
* Confirm your understanding of it.
* Validate their right to feel.
* Ask if they have a request.
* Respond to the request in an appropriate way.

 

EXERCISES AND ACTION ITEMS:

* Take the emotional intelligence quiz cited below.

* Consult your EAPs  for help with specifics, like anger 
management or grief work.

* Discuss emotional expression with your group and 
healthy ways to channel the energy.


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EDUCATIONAL OPPORTUNITIES
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How to train managers and coaches in emotion management
http://www.1to1coachingschool.com/Managing_Emotion_in_the_workplace.htm

How emotionally intelligent are you?  Take this quiz:
http://www.lifescript.com/quiz/quiz.asp?bid=52684&trans=1&du=1
&gclid=CKf83JiTnJICFQhusgodU3i2-w&ef_id=1350:3:c_ada7de
82050c20de61cb9b96d0c86e0e_710910605:MxtZIEGvMaAAAC
1RQfAAAAAd:20080320165249

Know how to handle your own experience of emotion and conflict
http://www.medhunters.com/articles/emotionsInTheWorkplace.html

Key Associates offers training in leadership, coaching, and conflict 
management,  including "How to Deal with Difficult People" and 
"Threats of Violence."  Call for customized training packages.
http://www.mkkey.com/courses.htm

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OTHER USEFUL WEBSITES 
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The social sharing of emotion and humor
http://books.google.com/books?id=JowWGqg
O3W0C&pg=PA143&lpg=PA143&dq=emotion
+is+the+workplace&source=web&ots=Qu5Xqf
gOWr&sig=8bazXIcJqp7RaCw5_DLrKvROED
o&hl=en#PPA149,M1

Expressing emotion improves productivity and morale
http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1272/is_n2604_v124/ai_17582563

Emotions as a force for good or toxicity
http://goliath.ecnext.com/coms2/gi_0198-14933/Handle-with-care-emotion-in.html

Former Keyzines on related topics:
Volume 6, September 2001 - Stress 
Reactions to Terrorism and Major Disasters
Volume 16, July 2002 - Dealing with Difficult People
Volume 22, January 2003 - Personal Change
Volume 57, December 2005 - Stress Management
Volume 72, March 2007 - Mindfulness
Volume 77, August 2007 - Constructive Confrontation

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ARTICLES/PUBLICATIONS                              
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Ashworth, Blake E. & Ronald Humphrey.
Emotion in the Workplace: A Reappraisal.  
Human Relations, Vol. 48, No. 2, 97-125 (1995).

Bernstein, Albert J.  Emotional Vampires: 
Dealing With People Who Drain You Dry.
  
McGraw-Hill, 2002.

Bolton, Sharon C.  Emotion Management in the Workplace 
(Management, Work and Organizations)
.
  Palgrave Macmillan, 
2005.

Goleman, Daniel.  Emotional Intelligence: Why It 
Can Matter More Than IQ (10th Anniversary Edition).
 
Bantam, 2006.

Fineman, Stephen.  Understanding Emotion at Work.
Sage Publications Ltd., 2003.

Harrell, Keith.  Attitude is Everything, Revised Edition: 
10 Life-Changing Steps to Turning Attitude into Action.
Collins, 2005.

Leeds, Dorothy.  The 7 Powers of Questions, 2000.

Levine, Stewart.  The Book of Agreement:
10 Essential Elements for Getting the Results 
You Want
, 2002.

Lord, Robert G., Richard J. Klimoski & Ruth Kanfer.  
Emotions in the Workplace: Understanding the 
Structure and Role of Emotions in Organizational
Behavior
.
  Jossey-Bass, 2002.

Maddock, Richard C. & Richard L. Fulton.  Motivation, 
Emotions, and Leadership: The Silent Side of Management
.    
Greenwood Publishing Group, 1998.

Miller, Katherine.  The Experience of Emotion in the 
Workplace.  Management Communication Quarterly

Vol. 15, No. 4, 571-600 (2002).

Patterson, Kerry et.al.  Crucial Conversations:
Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High
, 2002.

Payne, Roy L. & Gary L. Cooper.  Emotions at Work: 
Theory, Research and Applications for Management
.
Wiley Interscience, 2007.

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