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             Volume 22, January 2003
    Publisher: © Key Associates, 2003
           http://www.mkkey.com

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This Issue: "Personal Change"

Contents:

• What's Hot in Leadership
• Maintaining Yourself as a Leader
• Frequently Asked Questions from Leaders
• Educational Opportunities
• Useful Websites
• Articles/Publications

"They say time changes all things, but you
actually have to change them yourself."
                              -Andy Warhol

"Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of 
their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives."
                                -William James

"It's not that some people have willpower and some don't. 
It's that some people are ready to change and others are not."
                                -James Gordon, M.D.

"The universe is change; our life is what our thoughts make it."
                                -Marcus Aurelius Antoninus

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WHAT'S HOT IN LEADERSHIP
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CONTINUOUSLY IMPROVING YOURSELF
AS A LEADER AND AS A HUMAN BEING.

MODELING THE WAY, BY SEEKING STRETCH
GOALS AND BEING A LEARNER.

USING A PERSONAL IMPROVEMENT PLAN
(PIP) TO STRUCTURE PERSONAL GROWTH. 

REALIZING THAT ANY INVESTMENT YOU
MAKE IN THE GROWTH AND DEVELOPMENT 
OF PEOPLE YIELDS BENEFITS.

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MAINTAINING YOURSELF AS A LEADER
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Becoming a leader means becoming more fully
yourself, not just acquiring skill sets.   Take stock
of all those areas of your life in need of change.
Review your Vision, Values, Goals, Knowledge 
and Skills, Habits, and Daily Activities.  Set 
new directions for yourself and prepare  
your Personal Improvement Plan (PIP).  Draw a 
piegram with wedges of  time allotted to 
Work, Family, Rest, Community, Self.  Ask if  
the wedges should be arrayed differently? 

Don't wait until you're winded to quit smoking or 
until your doctor tells you, to lose weight.  Be proactive 
and creative with personal change, not reactive.  Use 
feedback from business associates to improve on-the-job
performance, such as meetings-on-time.  The payoffs
are in personal mastery, as well as in a healthier
lifestyle and attitude.

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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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I always start off great guns, then fall off the
wagon.  Any suggestions? 

Sure!  Four times is the average number of relapses
in habit change.  Relapse prevention is tied to 
what you tell yourself when you do slip.  We perfectionists
are all-or-none thinkers.  When we get off the diet, 
we tell ourselves we failed at dieting, rather than
saying "That's okay.  I'll trim back next time."

Don't try to achieve too much too soon.
Realistic goals with small interim steps (and
celebration at milestones) is a better strategy.

How can I motivate others when I can't get
started myself?

The pain of changing has to be less than the
pain of staying the same.   You can't motivate
others; they motivate themselves.  But you
can turn up the heat on the undesirable aspects
of the present state--even better, the desirable
aspects of the future state.  Use the power of hope,
not the fanning of fear.  Paint a picture of the positive,
the healthy.  For example, I became a runner, 
rather than a non-smoker.

Are there ways to accelerate change?

Take some tips from self-help groups.  They
capitalize on support groups, buddies and mentors.
And the public accountability of measurement.  
Utilize these social aspects of change.

Be patient.  It is said to take 21 days to change
a habit, from inception to embedding the new 
behavior.

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EDUCATIONAL OPPORTUNITIES
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Key Associates offers coaching and facilitation 
in change management for organizations and individuals.  
See http://www.mkkey.com.  

Reviews on many self-help books
http://wnkhome.northstarnet.org/owlill/change_selfhelp.html

Another reading list on personal help books
http://www.enleadership.com/readingpersonal.html

Works on behavioral change
http://www.counseling.swt.edu/behavior_modification.htm

Here's an internet course using William Bridges'
ideology http://users2.ev1.net/~frc/PC/index.htm

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OTHER USEFUL WEBSITES 
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Personal change competencies:
http://www.changecentral.com/personalcomp.html

An A-Z for personal change--Essays for the Wayfarer
http://www.wayfareronline.com/essays/index.htm 

Uncover, examine and re-author your stories
http://www.lylehaven.com/index.html

http://www.personal-change.com/ exists to provide 
tools and coaching, empowering you to accelerate 
specific and lasting improvement by your design.

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ARTICLES/PUBLICATIONS                              
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Ban Breathnach, Sara.  Something More: Excavating
Your Authentic Self. Warner Books, 1998.

Beckhard, Richard & Pritchard, Wendy. Changing the 
Essence: The Art of Creating and Leading Fundamental 
Change in Organizations. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 1992.

Bridges, William. Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s 
Changes. Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley, 1980.

Covey, Stephen R.  The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.  
Running Press, 2000.

Hagberg, Janet O.  Real Power: Stages of Personal Power
in Organizations.   Sheffield Publishing Company, 2002.

Johnson, Spencer & Blanchard, Ken.  Who Moved My Cheese? 
An Amazing Way to Deal with Change in Your Work and in
Your Life.  Putnam Publishing Group, 1998.

Kilmann, Ralph H. Beyond the Quick Fix. San Francisco: 
Jossey-bass, 1988.

Kirkpatrick, Don L. How to Manage Change Effectively. 
San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 1990.

Kouzes, James M. & Posner, Barry Z. The Leadership 
Challenge. San Francisco: Jossey-bass, 1990.

McGraw, Philip.  Life's Strategies: Doing What Works, 
Doing What Matters.  Hyperion, 1999.

Prochaska, James, John Norcross, Carlo DiClemente.
Changing for Good: A Revolutionary Six-Stage
Program for Overcoming Bad Habits and Moving
Your Life Positively Forward.  Avon Self-Help Books, 
1994.  

Quinn, Robert E. Deep Change: Discovering the Leader
Within.  Jossey-Bass, 1996.

Richardson, Cheryl.  Life Makeovers.  Broadway Books,
2000.

Salsbury, Glenna.  The Art of the Fresh Start.  Health 
Communications, 1995.

Tichy, Noel M. & Devanna, Mary A. The Transformational 
Leader. New York: John Wiley, 1986.

Tracey, Brian.  Focal Point: A Proven System to Simplify 
Your Life, Double Your Productivity, and Achieve All
Your Goals.  AMACOM, 2001.

Woodward, Harry & Buchholz, Steve. AfterShock: Helping 
People Through Corporate Change. New York: John Wiley 
& Sons, Inc., 1987.

Zimmerman, Brenda, Curt Lindberg and Paul Plsek.
Edgeware: Insights from Complexity Science. Irving, TX:
VHA, Inc., 1998.