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Volume 31, October 2003
    Publisher: © Key Associates, 2003
              ISSN # 1545-8873
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This Issue: On "Optimism"

Other Issues

Contents:

"Above the cloud with its shadow is a star with its light." 
                                                      
- Victor Hugo

"Man is affected not by his circumstances, but 
rather the view he takes of them."
            
- Albert Ellis re-quoting William James

"Finding temporary and specific causes for 
misfortune is the art of hope."
                                           
- Martin E.P. Seligman

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WHAT'S HOT IN LEADERSHIP
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SELECTING OPTIMISTIC PEOPLE TO 
FILL THE RANKS.

PLACING OPTIMISTIC INDIVIDUALS IN 
CRUCIAL NICHES AND HIGH-STRESS, 
HIGH-DEFEAT JOBS THAT REQUIRE 
PERSISTENCE.

TEACHING OPTIMISM AT WORK.  
OPTIMISM IS LEARNABLE.

PURVEYING HOPE--THE OPPORTUNITY
TO SERVE, TO BE NEEDED, TO SEE A 
FUTURE.

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MAINTAINING YOURSELF AS A LEADER
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When things go wrong, what do you tell yourself?  
Listen to your own internal dialogue.  Is it negative,
permanent ("This will ruin my career"), pervasive 
("People are always like this"), and personal
(I must be really incompetent")?  Begin to dispute
your pessimistic explanations, and talk back to
the little voice.  "Well, that was a learning experience."
"This guy must be having a bad day."  "No point
in being down on myself--mistakes like this happen 
to everyone."  Emerge from helplessness, take
control of your thinking, and energize yourself
into action.

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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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What role has Pollyanna in the business world?

Mind you, we are not talking about a giddy, foolish
spin on everything, but rather the way people
deal with setbacks and misfortunes.  The pay-
offs for business are considerable.

The correlates of optimism have been found to be:

-positive mood and good morale
-perseverance 
-effective problem-solving
-academic, military, occupational, and political success
-good health
-long life
-freedom from trauma

Conversely, a pessimistic style has been linked to:

-depression
-passivity
-self-fulfilling failure
-social estrangement
-morbidity and mortality 

People seem to be stuck in a "gripe mode."
Suggestions?

Deconstruct the complaint.  What's behind it?
What are the specifics?  What is changeable?
What are we all committed to, that can guide
us in moving forward?

Have a Whine-and-Cheese party.  Get out 
the gripes, cull out constructive suggestions,
and declare these whines off-limits after the
party.  We are now about the future and the role
we take in changing it.

Do you ever take the advice you dish out?

Just as this e-zine issue was first completed 
two weeks ago, my laptop was stolen and many 
important items were not backed up.  There
went all the work I had done on this issue.  
Compounded by physically relocating my office.

I learn as I teach (twice-learned) and I had 
been picking up a lot from Martin Seligman
that helped me tremendously.  Depression 
assaults women twice as often as men, which he
believes is attributable to rumination (women 
have a thinking style that contemplates and 
analyzes, whereas men tend to act).  We are
also better at "learned helplessness"--a belief 
that our actions will be futile.  Pessimism predicts
who will get depressed, stay depressed, and relapse.

I had to de-catastrophize this situation.  This loss 
would not ruin my life and my business.  This is at 
most an inconvenience.  Seligman coached:

FOCUS ON THE CHANGEABLE (It was time to 
get a better computer--let's shop!), THE SPECIFIC 
(It's just a piece of equipment and I recently backed up, 
plus I kept all my software elsewhere), and THE 
NON-PERSONAL (I didn't do anything to call this 
on myself).  I got busy, called police, insurance
companies, and gave myself a couple of weeks off
to recover my momentum, plus I kept reading on 
Optimism, because I needed to.

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EDUCATIONAL OPPORTUNITIES
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Seligman's lesson syllabi and unit plans
http://www.psych.upenn.edu/seligman/

The results of a workshop on cognitive coping skills
http://helping.apa.org/mind_body/learned.html

A self test on optimism
http://www.spiritualityhealth.com/newsh/items/selftest/item_236.html

How to become a power optimist
http://www.poweroptimism.com/main/index.asp

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OTHER USEFUL WEBSITES 
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Learned optimism is more useful than truth
http://www.globalideasbank.org/1993/1993-38.HTML

Insights on the Wealthy Soul
http://www.wealthysoul.com/?src=overture&OVRAW=optimism&OVKEY=optimism&OVMTC=standard

Pessimists are more often right, but optimists
accomplish more
http://www.ncf.carleton.ca/~an588/create.html

Inspirational quotes on optimism
http://sparkpeople.com/start/quotes_optimism.html

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ARTICLES/PUBLICATIONS                              
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Aspinwall, Lisa G. & Staudinger, Ursula M.  
A Psychology of Human Strengths.  APA Books, 
2003.

Csikszentmihalyi, Mihaly.  Good Business:
Leadership, Flow and the Making of Meaning.  
Viking Press, 2003.

Flach, Frederic F.  Resilience: How to Bounce
Back When the Going Gets Tough.
  Hatherleigh Press,
1997.

Keyes, Corey L.M. & Haidt, Johnathan.  Flourishing:
Positive Psychology and the Life Well-Lived.  
APA Books, 2003.

Peterson, Christopher.  "The Future of Optimism."
American Psychologist, January 2000, 44-55.

Reivich, Karen & Shatte, Andrew.  The Resilience
Factor: 7 Essential Skills for Overcoming Life's
Inevitable Obstacles
, Broadway Books, 2002.

Seligman, Martin E. P.  Learned Optimism: How
to Change Your Mind and Your Life.
  Free press, 1998.

Snyder, C.R. & Lopez, Shane J.  Handbook of Positive Psychology.
Oxford University Press, 2002.

Young-Eisendrath, Polly.  The Resilient Spirit: Transforming
Suffering into Insight and Renewal. 
Perseus Publishing, 1997.

    

 

Please check our Back Issues:

Volume 1, April 2001-On Leadership

Volume 2, May 2001- On Innovation

Volume 3, June 2001-On Coaching

Volume 4, July 2001-On Change

Volume 5, August 2001 -On Spirit at Work

Volume 6, September 2001 - On Stress 
Reactions to Terrorism and Major Disasters

Volume 7, October 2001 - On Mediating Conflict  

Volume 8, November 2001 - On Keeping Customers 

(Volume 9 - A survey for subscribers only)

Volume 10, January 2002 - Meetings

Volume 11, February 2002 - Teams

Volume 12, March 2002 - Facilitation

Volume 13, April 2002 - Trust & Integrity

Volume 14, May 2002 - Learning Organizations

Volume 15, June 2002 - Motivation

Volume 16, July 2002 - Dealing with Difficult People

Volume 17, August 2002 - Keeping Good People

Volume 18, September 2002 - Organizational Culture

Volume 19, October 2002 - Lean Does Not Have to Be Mean

Volume 20, November 2002 - Speaking from the Heart

Volume 21, December 2002 - Joy in the Workplace

Volume 22, January 2003 - Personal Change

Volume 23, February 2003 - Evolving Workplaces: Telework

Volume 24, March 2003 - The Leader as Storyteller

Volume 25, April 2003 - When Enough is Not Enough

Volume 26, May 2003 - Creative Expression

Volume 27, June 2003 - Facilitative Leadership

Volume 28, July 2003 - Pride in Work

Volume 29, August 2003 - On Transformation

Volume 30, September 2003 - On Effective Listening

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